Tenderness

Painting by Mabedi Jaba" Tenderness"@1000USD

Apologies, been procrastinating on this and that, realizing my prevalence and frequency of my procrastination mode, I complained to a friend of mine who comforted me to say  its human nature.I suppose it is but i also suppose it has to stop at some point.This remind me of a young lady who told me is renting a small bar in a village, apparently this bar has been there from way back.The owner is not capable of running it successfully and he has decided to rent it.However, whenever he sees that the tenant is making some kill out of it, he terminates the agreement so that he runs it.In no time his management tactics fail dismally, he decides to rent it again.He has called this lady to tell her she wants to increase rental failing which  he will kick her out soon..I'm yet to know how to classify such fellows.

Yes i remember that I said I will offer some help with people who get overly angry, not to say that I'm any expert in offering solutions to such emotions. Wikileaks defines Anger as an emotion related to one's perception of having been offended or wronged and a tendency to undo that wrongdoing by retaliation.Likewise it could mean  a strong feeling of displeasure or hostility.I must admit my management of anger is usually not so good and so this link is an excellent advice http://www.guidetopsychology.com/anger.htm. some of the tips are as follows:

* Venting anger does not work. Even though it might give some immediate satisfaction, venting anger (called catharsis)—whether by yelling obscenities, making obscene gestures, honking the horn of your car, throwing or breaking things, or screaming insults—does nothing to dispel anger. More often than not, it actually pumps up your emotional arousal and may even prolong it.

* Cool down.

* If you’re prone to violence, then walk away from the provocation as soon as you feel the pressure building.

In most cases, simply taking a few moments to practice some simple relaxation exercises, such as deep breathing, can allow your sympathetic nervous system’s arousal to calm down and dissipate by itself.

* Just don’t use this cooling off period to dwell on negative thoughts or you will make matters even worse. In fact, this leads to the next step.

* Ask yourself what you’re really feeling. Many persons have such a limited knowledge of their emotional life that they tend to lump everything together into anger. If you look closely, though, you might find that behind the anger are more pertinent feelings, such as disappointment, sadness, fear, and so on

* Challenge your negative thoughts. The way we think has a lot to do with the way we feel, so changing your thoughts from a hateful, negative orientation to a calm, positive orientation becomes essential in managing feelings of hurt and insult.
Suggestion of the week

Most people think that when you forgive someone, you are doing them a favor and that’s just not true. When you forgive someone else or something that you have done, you really are helping yourself. Whenever you harbor bitterness about a person or a situation in your life, your life force energy will contract every time that you think about that person or event